There are two things we need to talk about that are obstacles to having healthier families: Divorce and cohabitation. When families are weak; society is weak. Unhealthy families mean unhealthy society. Please see our blog at www.divorcereform.info and read the comments below for more discussion.
Co-Directors Krsnanandini and Tariq have presented several workshops over the summer in Guyana, South America, Toronto Canada, Columbus, Ohio, New York and West Virginia. Our mission is to empower individuals, couples and families with healthy relationship skills. Everywhere we go we see the need for this empowerment; everywhere we go people ask for help with their marriages and their relationships. “If I knew then what I know now, I would have found a way to work it out with my spouse,” one lady told us recently, reminiscent of country musician Kenny Rogers’ famous ballad. “I didn’t realize the fall-out from divorce with my children, finances, social life, everything.”
We’ve heard comments similar to this often. Divorce is almost never the best solution; Over time, feelings erode due to little things: “he didn’t keep up his appearance”, “I don’t like how she dragged her house shoes across the floor when she walked,” “she chewed gum and popped it — it was like torture.” The French philosopher Blaise Pascal said: “Little things console us because little things afflict us” It’s the little things that build up over time, causing frustration and annoyance. Healthy communication skills can go a long way to deal with these little things as well as strength of character and compassion. Just as you don’t give up on a child because he has become difficult or causes problems, you shouldn’t give up on your marriage. Get help– there’s more and more available now.
So that’s one thing. The other thing is the phenomenon of cohabitation. Clearly, this trend (to cohabit rather than marry) is not at all beneficial, for society for children or men or women. People who fail to marry when there are children they have or want to have children do not get the benefits of a committed healthy marriage and there are hundreds and hundreds of statistics to prove it. The question is what happened to make us accept cohabitation as an alternative to a committed marriage? Where did we lose sight of the best arena to raise children? And, are people happier and more satisfied doing it this way? These are some questions we as a society need to answer.