Once we were hosting several friends for dinner. Since they were all married, we asked, “what would each of you say is the reason you have such lasting, satisfying marriages?” Almost to a person, each replied that friendship was the key. Romance and passion are generally very attractive in the beginning, but like water in the ocean tides, surely will ebb and flow. Real friendship, dependable, accepting, trusting, supportive, affectionate, and nonjudgmental, will take you through the good times and the bad. As marriage educators who have provided direct relationship skill-building services to many, many couples, we have found that being “best friends” is generally an indication that spouses will endure and thrive in a healthy relationship.
Tip: Marry someone who is also a friend and you will have a much greater possibility of having a satisfying marriage.
