One of the latest issues of Balanced Living Magazine (July-August 2007) contains our article: “Addictive Relationships: I Love You So Why Can’t We Get Along.”
As we promised, below are some further resources to aid in the recovery process and to give more insight into addictive relationships. The phenomenal response to this article shows how this issue affects many, many relationships.
The two paragraphs below are quoted from the article and resources follow:
“In addictive relationships, a lover’s own unskilled words, actions and thoughts result in hurting him/herself and the ones they claim to love or be devoted to. Most of the time, when the addictive person causes harm to others or is hurt by them, no effort is made to truly resolve the issues in the relationship due to the very same lack of healthy relationship skills or awareness.
Devotion and Addiction are words that go ill together. With a commitment to participate only in healthy relationships, and a willingness to work on ourselves and get help when needed, each of us can claim Healthy relationships as our natural birthright.”
Some books that may prove helpful in the healing process are:
- Spiritual Warrior II (Transforming Lust into Love) by Swami Krishnapada
- The 7 Habits of Highly-Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey
- The 8th Habit, also by Stephen R. Covey
- Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
- Pure Gold: Encouraging Character Qualities in Marriage by Susanne M. Alexander;
- Destructive Emotions: How Can We Overcome Them? by Daniel Goleman
The Dasi-Ziyad Family Institute will be conducting workshops on several relationship topics including addictive relationships. Be sure to check our site for upcoming events or news for details.